Serving: Thank You for Being a Friend...

Have you ever had a friend that you love so much, do anything for them but in a weird way, your friendship seems off? Stuck, even? Have you ever had a friend(s), where nothing meets their approval? Whether they say it or not, they have a strong spirit of correction on them and they’re always sitting in a place of judgement. Have you ever had a friend(s) who tends to try and “fix” everyone based on their standards? Their intentions are sometimes good however, the execution of the “helpfulness” and the excessive amount of it, can be annoying? If this

sounds familiar. I’m right there with you.

The last two months of my life have been a time of great introspection. This time has caused me to re-evaluate myself in every aspect of my life. Questioning my own intentions, my goals/wants/desires, and definitely the people I call and consider friends. It has been a scary process to say the least. Scary because, I’ve learned that some of the relationships that I’m in if they don’t change they can not go into the next season of my life. Which is a hard pill to swallow.

I believe that in our close friendships, we sometimes allow ourselves to be okay with things that we’re really not. Whether it’s due to loyalty, time, or to avoid having those difficult conversations, we settle for things that in my opinion inhibits the evolution of the friendship. Which in retrospect, makes for an inauthentic friendship. A true friendship should be a safe space to discuss anything, a space to be your complete self without judgement. Friendships should serve as a support system, not something to be proven. Being able to be your complete self without feeling judged constantly, is what makes friendships so sacred. Consider the changes that need to be made in your respective relationships. There is always room for improvement.

Protect your space, protect your energy. Find a circle that is right for you. The real you!

Serving: Loading...

You took the risk, you made the transition, you’re excited, because of all of the possible opportunities that you’re expecting to happen. Then you find yourself unexpectedly experiencing things that were not a part of the plan. What do you do? Do you go back to what’s comfortable? Do you find another alternative? Do find another way to play it safe? I’ve found myself in this position more times than I like to think about. Many times I would go back to what’s comfortable, even if it’s dysfunctional, it was still familiar. Playing it safe has, in the past, been a prerequisite for me to make any type of change. Unfortunately, safe, along with control, is nothing more than an illusion. Life has a way of unconsciously warping our minds into believing that playing it “safe” will prevent us from hurt, misery and/or pain. Or have us to believe that if things are good and “comfortable” we’re walking in purpose. However, I’m slowly learning that our expectations are our invitations to what happens to us. When we align ourselves to God, we can boldly declare what we want for our lives. The caveat to that is, we must be willing to trust in Him only. Even when things don’t go according to our plan. If not, when life happens, whether good or bad, we can become distracted and lose sight of our goals and Him. Keep your focus. Don’t give up. Declare and speak the life that you want and follow, trust and obey the only one that can give it to you, God!.

Be well and be blessed!

Serving: Evaluate the Inner...

What other people think of you shouldn't be any of your business. However, when it comes to those who love you and are connected to you, their thoughts of you carry tremendous impact. It's great to have people in your inner circle who are able to impart their thoughts about you and how they see you. However, if it's coming from their deep rooted insecurities, and a negative approach, be very careful! Sometimes the people closest to you may lead you to believe that you're something that you're really not. Or have you believing something about yourself, that's not true, based on how they truly feel about themselves. Take time to evaluate your inner circle. Friendships should never make you feel you have to prove yourself to anyone. You are enough! Stand firm in knowing who you are and whose you are; and the people who love you based on that. They are keepers! Be well and be blessed!